okay guys i know next to nobody will reblog this but please
if a family member has ever made a “harmless” comment (what have you done to your hair/what the hell are you wearing/etc) to you about your appearance and it hurt you, please reblog this, i need to show my mum and step dad the notes.
pastel-kondom asked: It's weird that people that are against true crime blogs write death threats to the bloggers. There's no logic.
There really isn’t - it’s actually a lot worse if you’ve ever happened to read an article or post ANYWHERE on the internet about criminals in general.
If you just read the comments, you’ll see things like “I hope this asshole gets ripped to pieces!!!” or “They should kill this scumbag for what he did!” or “I hope he gets raped in the pen!!” And it doesn’t even really matter what their crime was - it could be petty theft to something as serious as serial killing. The response is the same. AND PEOPLE GET FUCKING CREATIVE ABOUT IT TOO, like, they’ll say shit like “I hope they dip this asshole in organic honey and feed him to thousands of starving hogs that haven’t eaten in months!!!” LIKE. WAY TO BE FRIGHTENINGLY SPECIFIC THERE, JOHN397 FROM TEXAS. THE FACT THAT YOU’RE OUT AND ABOUT IN SOCIETY DEFINITELY ISN’T DISCONCERTING.
I mean, like… I understand that these people are criminals and you feel strongly about what they did and who they victimized, but get a fucking grip, jesus christ, you sound EXACTLY like the people you’re admonishing, how can you not see this???
That same vitriol is thrown at anyone who shows even the smallest bit of sympathy towards any criminal - and not even sympathy, mind you, if someone says something neutral like “yes, but they deserve due process” someone else will inevitably respond with “BUT WHAT ABOUT THE VICTIM!?!??!?!?!?!? DID THEY GET DUE PROCESS???? S/HE DIDN’T CARE WHEN S/HE RAPED/KILLED/STOLE/etc.”
Yes, thank you, and believe it or not, that’s what separates functional human beings and their judicial system FROM THE CRIMINALS THEY’RE TRYING TO CAPTURE, PROSECUTE, AND PUNISH. The response isn’t to turn around and do the exact same thing, what the fucking hell???
And, in the spirit of showing humanity and sympathy for victims, they think the best way to make this obvious is to wish death, disease, dismemberment, suffering, and/or eternal damnation on the people who are either completely neutral to victims and their families, or who show sympathy towards the criminals. And to say things like, “I hope your family member(s) get killed and chopped up so you know how it feels” implies that the only way to empathize with a victim is to BE a victim - which then begs the question - who, in your family, got chopped up for you to believe you’re so much more empathetic to the victims and their families than me? You are no more capable of showing humanity to varied groups of people than I am, and my ability to show sympathy/empathy to criminals and their families does not mean I have no room for sympathy/empathy to victims or their families, or that I cannot possibly have both AT THE SAME TIME.
AS IF IT’S ALL OR NOTHING. If you show sympathy for criminals, it means that you are AUTOMATICALLY incapable of showing sympathy for victims and if that is the case, then you are either some sort of sociopath, or a criminal yourself who just hasn’t had the opportunity to commit a crime yet. THEREFORE, let me wish death and destruction upon you, you evil vile scum… again… in the spirit of being a good, caring, empathetic human being, because that’s what good, caring, empathetic human beings do… they wish death on people.
The logic… it’s totally missing.
do you ever just
think about Doctor Connors and how he’s only got one arm
and get really sad
because i do
like i sit there and think about how he does things with only one arm (not trying to say he’s not capable, he’s shown that he’s wicked smart and cool and i love him and yee, but just…
”THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. it may save a life.) Reblog this!
It seems that alot of attackers use some tactic to get away with violence. Not many people know how to take care of themselves when faced with such a
situation. Everyone should read this especially each n every girl in this world. THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG…
FYI - Through a rapist’s eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.
5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.
6] Number three is public restrooms.
7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.
8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.
POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:
1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk:
can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.
2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would
not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and
armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.
5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.
6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using
much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel
little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….
I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be some, where you will go “hmm I must remember that” After reading forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.
2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or
purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be
hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .
b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.
DON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT NOT REBLOGGING THIS! IT COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.
Reblog this. Only the picture will appear on your blog.
You know I was thinking something strange about women and shaving today, and by that I am talking about the choice to shave where I do not think it is really a choice to shave but rather society has made it a necessity. I have heard people say “oh its a choice you don’t have to shave if you do not want to” Yeah I hear that but if it really was a free choice why are women who don’t shave ridiculed for not shaving. Consider this, a man can shave his armpits, his legs and his face and what not and go out in public and knowbody would bat and eye. A man can also not shave his armpits , legs and face and what not, go out in public and still nobody bats an eye. Now lets reverse the situation to a woman. A woman shaves and goes out nobody bats an eye but if she doesn’t shave there are gasps, eyes are widened and “oh my gods” are heard. I had this when I was only 13 when I had a TINY bit of hair showing on my armpits. It was ridiculous, and that is my point. If shaving for women really is a free choice then why are people so shocked and repulsed by a woman who hasn’t shaved? maybe its because the majority of women do shave so they aren’t used to seeing it but so what? its just hair! why are women ridiculed for not shaving if it really is a choice to do it or not. Personally I don’t see that. I see that it has come to a point where shaving for women is hardly a choice but now a necessity and women who may not want to shave are afraid not to for fear of ridicule for their so called ‘choice’ .
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